Sunday, 22 November 2015
One room at a time
Now that we're finally starting to breathe again, so is the house. Slowly.
His door remains closed but for a sliver. Trish leaves a dim blue light on in there, and his urn remains sitting in his crib. But the other rooms, we're tearing through them one at a time, discarding or cleaning or giving away what remains.
Now that the Christmas season is upon us, the pain has started to intensify. There are more triggers, with every commercial showing happy families, every decoration reminding us that, yes, last year was his last Christmas, and things will never be as easy for us again.
Not that we can't be happy. It'll be no doubt bittersweet to know that some of his old toys we donate will create many more smiles and warm hearts. But we're not rushing that either, knowing the process of sorting them into piles - keep, give to charity X, charity Y, give to friends - will be tough, too.
Lately the work is all about getting rooms manageable; you know, so you can actually walk into them without feeling you're going to wind up buried in stuff or on the next episode of Hoarders. Turns out it's not that hard. We really did just throw things in the rooms, a lot of large cardboard boxes containing small items. Recycle the cardboard, amalgamate what's left and you're good to go.
Our friend Angie is visiting again this week. We met at the Alberta Children's Hospital because her daughter was diagnosed with leukemia and are now super close with her and her husband Will. The last time she came, her and Trish went through all of the extra medical supplies we were left with, cataloged them and gave them away via an Alberta Children's Hospital parents group.
This time we'll start tackling the toys. And some wine. OK, there might need to be wine first.
When is Christmas over again? But really, there's always another date coming. I think the worst days are already over. Not that the ones to come aren't hard, but we've proved we can get through it.
Nothing like a good house cleaning to make you feel better.